Well ds's dad just arrived unexpectedly and demanded to take ds with him - encouraged ds to say hello to his dad, but then he ran into his bedroom and
started to cry. I attempted to discuss ds's current health situation - recovering from the operation as well as being ill (flu). "dad" was having
none of it - wouldn't talk, just shouted at me. He went to his car, then came back, banged in the door and demanded ds to go with him.
I had written to 'dad', a few days prior, explaining everything and invited him to call me to discuss the situation, He didn't; he just arrived AND brought his girlfriend/ex? (witness?). I called the Police after, just to report it, get it on record, I was really shakey - "dad" seemed real angry - I wouldn't have sent ds with anyone who was that angry anyway! (I say seemed - It could have been an act - to frighten me into submission).
Ds really is sick (and I will be taking him to the Dr's tomorrow)."Dad" really did get a letter, (and read it so he says), he just chose to not respond appropriately by calling me to discuss the situation. He kept shouting "you have no right", but thing is, He withholds ds from me quite regularly, little bit here and there, extra overnights not agreed to, extra hours, rarely do I get any notice - just not at home to be collected, etc - I have such a long list of all his 'irregularities'...
Thing is, I really don't know if I did the right thing or not. I know morally I did, and I know as a mother I did, but legally, always unsure - it is a mine field out there atm, I fully expect another bully letter either from him or perhaps his laywer, had one at the beginning of the year but nothing came of it.
Why is there never clarification about when a child is sick, who should be caring for them - continuity of care. Dad knows nothing of his current condition and was not willng to lsiten ot me about it. Also, my concern is spreading disease - swine flu etc - when ds goes over there and comes home sick, "dad" does not tell me, I get to find out for myself, but what if they have some yucky disease or tummy bug etc - shouldn't we try to limit exposure to others as you would eg exclude from childcare and school.
I am tired now, it takes so much out of me, being strong for the kids all the time, time to rest...I doubt he'll be back today...Thanks for listening.
I had written to 'dad', a few days prior, explaining everything and invited him to call me to discuss the situation, He didn't; he just arrived AND brought his girlfriend/ex? (witness?). I called the Police after, just to report it, get it on record, I was really shakey - "dad" seemed real angry - I wouldn't have sent ds with anyone who was that angry anyway! (I say seemed - It could have been an act - to frighten me into submission).
Ds really is sick (and I will be taking him to the Dr's tomorrow)."Dad" really did get a letter, (and read it so he says), he just chose to not respond appropriately by calling me to discuss the situation. He kept shouting "you have no right", but thing is, He withholds ds from me quite regularly, little bit here and there, extra overnights not agreed to, extra hours, rarely do I get any notice - just not at home to be collected, etc - I have such a long list of all his 'irregularities'...
Thing is, I really don't know if I did the right thing or not. I know morally I did, and I know as a mother I did, but legally, always unsure - it is a mine field out there atm, I fully expect another bully letter either from him or perhaps his laywer, had one at the beginning of the year but nothing came of it.
Why is there never clarification about when a child is sick, who should be caring for them - continuity of care. Dad knows nothing of his current condition and was not willng to lsiten ot me about it. Also, my concern is spreading disease - swine flu etc - when ds goes over there and comes home sick, "dad" does not tell me, I get to find out for myself, but what if they have some yucky disease or tummy bug etc - shouldn't we try to limit exposure to others as you would eg exclude from childcare and school.
I am tired now, it takes so much out of me, being strong for the kids all the time, time to rest...I doubt he'll be back today...Thanks for listening.
